You have the right to decide who and when someone can touch you in a sexual way. While that may seem obvious, situations can arise that make that seem less clear. You have the right to say "no" to anything that makes you uncomfortable no matter who does it or in what situation it takes place. A violation of that is not your fault.
A sexual assault, whether by a stranger or an acquaintance, can be very frightening and disorienting. It happens to all people regardless of sexual orientation or sexual identification. Survivors of sexual assault are often confused about what they should do next, and many question whether what happened was really assault at all, especially if the assailant was someone they knew or with whom they've had a relationship. Survivors of sexual assault are also often frightened to call or tell someone else because they worry that they will not be believed or because they are ashamed or feel responsible. If you have been sexually assaulted or raped it is important to remember that it is not your fault and that you have the right to receive assistance from people who will believe you and help you in your recovery.
There is a higher chance of avoiding sexual assault just by being aware of what and who is around you. Being cautious and alert can only be to your benefit.
Believe in your right to set those limits
If someone starts to offend you, tell him/her early and firmly. Being polite is O.K. As long as you are firm and assertive. Say “no” when you mean “no” and be prepared to repeat it.
Alcohol and drugs interfere with clear thinking and effective communication.
It is estimated that up to One in Three Adult Women will be Sexually Assaulted at some point in her life. One in Ten Sexual Assault victims are Men. 77% of all Assaults are committed by someone the victim knows.
It is possible to be aware without being afraid. Thinking and talking about the different types of sexual assault, and what you might do if you ever find yourself in a dangerous situation, can increase your chances of staying safe.
*If you are walking alone, try to have an emergency whistle with you. If you find yourself in danger, blow the whistle to attract attention for help. Another item that may help you if in danger is chemical mace, to spray in attackers eyes. You can also use items such as keys, pencils, pens, or books to defend yourself against an attacker.
"Never assume.... Ask before you proceed...."
If you are in Immediate Danger
If you are not in immediate physical danger
Call an Advocate at TriValley Haven
925.449.5842 or 800.884.8119.
Get to a safe place. After experiencing a traumatizing event such as sexual assault, it is important to find a place where you feel comfortable and safe from harm. This location could be home, a friend’s room, the local hospital or police station.
Call 911 for immediate police protection and assistance. If you are not in immediate danger you can also call the Local Rape Hotline: Tri Valley Haven: (925) 449-5842 or (800) 884-8119 crisis line for a rape advocate to help guide and support you without judgement through this process.
Seek Medical Care: Whether you make the choice to report the assault or not, medical care is recommended for STI screening and evaluation of any injuries.
We are here to HELP!
Student Health Center 925-424-1830
Campus Safety Emergency Line 925-424-1699
Consider talking with a counselor. Counseling is often helpful for survivors because it provides a safe place to talk about your experience and your feelings.Counseling and Psychological services are available at the Student Health Center and at Tri-Valley Haven.
Remember it's Not your Fault, the perpetrator is at FAULT!
Recognize that Healing from Sexual Violence can Take Time. Give Yourself the Time that you Need.
3.4 million people are stalked each year in the United States. Women are three times more likely to be stalked than men.
Stalking is a series of actions that make you feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.
Stalking is a crime. Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous.
Notify Campus Safety if Stalking is occuring on Campus
Off Campus Contact the Police or Campus Safety for Resources
Bay Area Women Against Rape
470 27th Street
Oakland, CA 94601
(510) 845-7273 rape crisis line
Oakland Consortium on Sexual Assault
1411 East 31st Street
Oakland, CA 94602
(510) 437-4688 ext. 48319
(510) 594-9290, (510) 594-9291
Tri Valley Haven
3663 Pacific Avenue
Livermore, CA 94550
(925) 449-5842 or (800) 884-8119
Korean Community Center of the East Bay Shimtuh Korean Domestic Violence Program
4390 Telegraph Avenue, #A
Oakland, CA 94609
(866) 744-6884 (SHIMTUH)
Safe Alternatives to Violent Environments, Inc. (SAVE)
39155 Liberty Street, Suite C310
Fremont, CA 94538
1403 164th Avenue
San Leandro, CA 94578
Alameda County District Attorney's Office
1401 Lakeside Drive, Suite 802
Oakland, CA 94612
Adult Protective Services
Adult Protective Services County Contact List
California Department of Social Services
Child Protective Services
Child Welfare Services County Contact List
California Department of Social Services
Batterers Intervention Programs (Approved)
Oakland, CA 94607
(510) 268-7050, (510) 268-7233
Dayna Barbero PHN, FNP-C
Stanford HealthCare ValleyCare
Family Nurse Practitioner
Monday, Tuesday, & Thursday
9:00 am - 5 pm
10 am - 2 pm
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